Remember our vacation a few weeks ago? I did something on our vacation - an experiment, a secret experiment. I didn't tell my husband about it until we got home. It was a commitment and a promise.
I promised to myself that every day we were away I would get ready in a way that would please my husband and IF HE NOTICED, I would find a way to make it happen at home too.
I've read the marriage books that say "Make yourself beautiful for your husband!" But my husband's favorite ways take a lot of TIME! He REALLY likes my hair down and straightened. I like to put my hair up in a messy bun. HE likes makeup - yes it's true - I wore makeup when we went out somewhere.
Well guess what. . .he noticed. He noticed BIG time! You married ladies out there you know EXACTLY what I'm talking about! On vacation he played with my hair, he kissed me more, he put his arm around me more. It was wonderful!
So I committed to doing it at home too. And guess what . . . He's kissing me more, he's holding me more, and last night he told me that he likes me just the way I am! WAIT ONE SECOND HERE. How exactly does that work? I told him that "that's good cause I'm struggling to change me!" But after I said that he told me some key words last night. He said, "You seem to be growing more beautiful to me. I think it's because YOU ARE TRYING to look beautiful for me."
Talk about a punch to my gut. I get it now. It has NOTHING to do with whether or not I have my makeup on or my hair all perfect. It has NOTHING to do with struggling with my weight or my baby-making misshapen tummy. It has NOTHING to do with the clothes that I wear.
It has everything to do with showing my husband I love him. And he loves me for it.
Are you struggling to get out of your what I call "bumming clothes?" When you get up in the morning do you look the same way when your hubbie comes home from work at night? Take a peek at the Song of Solomon. The ways that Solomon praises his bride are about how beautiful she is. Her hair, her lips, her eyes, her neck, I think it mentions every part but her toes!
Men are very visual and while women enjoy the visual - I think we would give up our husband's handsomeness for the soft caresses and verbal praises from our man. One thing I think we as women often forget is that GOD MADE OUR MEN THIS WAY! God made them to appreciate beauty in ways that we as women do not. It's a BEAUTIFUL thing and a precious gift. But guess what? We don't have to be goddesses or look like we stepped out of Sports Illustrated. (Thank goodness!!) We just need to put forth the EFFORT!
I'm figuring this out for myself. Finally. This concept will not perfect my marriage or fix the problems that we may or may not have. But it will show my husband that I love him. Because I do.
In HIS Grip,
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