I just finished reading a book "The Good Wife's Guide" by Darlene Schacht from Time Warp Wife and I enjoyed the simplicity and biblical truth found in her words. Whether you are a pro at this marriage thing or just starting out or maybe even preparing to be a wife someday, you will find encouragement and help for married and homemaking life. It is packed full of biblical and practical truth alike. I love her stand on being a stay-at-home mom or a working-away-from-home mom - it is right on and so encouraging for those that feel pressured into choosing one as the only "right" way. Being a "list person" I also enjoyed her many lists of cleaning and to-do's that help your home run more smoothly!
Darlene was kind enough to offer her book first to me but also to some of you!
Three of you will win a free copy of her book "The Good Wife's Guide!"
It's pretty easy to enter this giveaway!
Just leave a comment with a piece of advice that you have been given that has changed you!
Make sure to read other's comments too!! Comment on! Giveaway ends next Friday!
In HIS Grip,
I think one of the best pieces of advice I ever heard for being a wife was NOT to forget you are a wife. first, before being mommy or anything else to anyone else. after God, my husband is my top priority!
ReplyDeleteCan't believe I'm actually going to play :) Probably some of the best advice for me has been, Not to sweat the small things, or step back and take a look at the big picture, Since I tend to get up tight about little things. And of course my mom always tells me... Pray about it.
ReplyDeleteSounds like a good book! Piece of advice that was given me: Don't spend your time during your children's younger years waiting until they are grown and your "real life" can begin. Your real life is now -- live it! (Definitely a paraphrase but from the book Mission of Motherhood).
ReplyDeleteBest advice: "If it's not sin, I can't demand change." This has changed our marriage :)
ReplyDeleteI'm not just kissing up, Ann, but to be truthful, what you said a few days ago was like a "lightbulb" to me! You said, "By saying YES to one thing (my computer), I am saying NO to something else (my family or God)." That really boiled things down for me. So I wrote it on a card, and it's now taped to my computer screen! Thank you for the insight and perspective!
ReplyDeleteUseful bit of advice for me "Breathe!" Whether it's a bad case of hiccups, a stubbed toe, childbirth, exercise, being stuck in traffic, or even trying to get through the grocery store with cranky kids, taking a nice deep breath(or two, or ten) helps to calm the nerves and even reduce pain.
ReplyDeleteThe best advice I have gotten was recently at a friend's bachlorette party from a seasoned wife (and mom). I cannot make my husband read his Bible and pray, I cannot make him be the spiritual leader, or make him a great Dad. If I want that to happen, I need to PRAY about it, because only God can put the true, LASTING desire in my husband's heart.
ReplyDeleteBest piece of advice is to pray for my husband. I know his hurts, his desires, his passions, his burdens, his strengths, his weaknesses, better than anyone else - sometimes even him. He needs me to lift him up in prayer.
ReplyDeleteA piece of advice I have received is to not stress about the housework and to take time to be with your family. This is a good reminder for me because I don't like clutter and tend to like things in order.
ReplyDeleteThe best advice i ever had came from Mother Theresa: "I know God will not give me anything I can't handle"
ReplyDeleteI always think of this quote when something is not going well.
"Be flexible" ~ I was given this piece of advice the week after our honeymoon & it has really helped me avert some stressful situations!
ReplyDeleteAlways put God first and never go to bed mad!
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Sherri
My best piece of advise is that you can not be someone else's Holy Spirit. When there needs to be a change made, it is God's job through the Holy Spirit to speak to your husband. My job is to pray.
ReplyDeleteWhen I first entered the role of "pastor's wife" I asked other pastors' wives for advice. A woman I really admired (and still do) told me to remember what my job is. She said "Your job is not to be in charge of every committee and play the piano. Your job is to support your husband."
ReplyDeleteI know I have already posted, but I was looking back at my FB from around the time my second son was born...so just over a year ago, And I found this on my wall and thought I would share.
ReplyDeleteLife is too short to wake up in the mornings with regrets. So, love the people who treat you right, forgive the ones that don't and believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance, take it. If it changes your life, let it. Nobody said it'd be easy, they just promised it would be worth it
Thanks for the giveaway.The piece of advice I will share I always need to remember, myself. There is no job vacancy in the trinity. I do not need to be my husband's Holy Spirit.
ReplyDeleteMy dad once said to me, "God doesn't care about what you did yesterday. He wants to know what you'll do today." It was at a time in my life when I desperately needed to hear those saving words of Grace and hope for the future.
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Someone once told me that that saying "God doesn't give you more than you can handle" IS wrong....They said "God doesn't give you more than He can handle and you will go through some hard thing, but can only get through them with Him"......best thing I have ever heard
ReplyDeleteI'd love a chance at this giveaway! Something I read the other day after quite a while of frustration. Work on fixing my bad habits and doing my job as a wife and mother. Don't try to fix my husbands bad habits. Pray, read my Bible. With God working in my life, it'll all come together. (I paraphrased) I'm feeling much better this week.
ReplyDeleteI think the best advice I have ever been given about being a wife came from my Dad. He told me just before my parents moved from California to Georgia when I was 19 "to not ever lie to your husband about anything but most importantly about money". I always have done my best to not lie to anyone but I think we often forget to be most open with our husbands.
ReplyDeleteGreat giveaway. One thing my husband and I were told to make our marriage strong is to start each day by praying together. It sure does make a difference.
ReplyDeleteGreat giveaway! One piece of the best pieces of advice a friend gave me when I first got married was, never to bad mouth my husband to anyone it only gives that other person(s) the right to do the same. I see this all to often amongst couples and it is heart breaking. Most times it is only done because they are angry at that moment, so just for a moment of anger you put down the man you love and give someone else right to do the same...so sad :( We all go through problems but I believe we should take our problems to God in prayer and to our spouses in love.
ReplyDeleteSome of the best advice I've been given was from an elderly lady.
ReplyDeleteI had just went through rehab for alcoholism, and starting my life again after accepting Christ. I thought I should get rid of my husband as he was still drinking. Didn't think I could make it with him. This lady told me that she had left her husband for that reason, many years ago. She had remarried, thinking that she had found the perfect one. She found out that life with him was hell on earth. So, I decided to stay with my husband. God has given me such grace over the years, I've stayed sober for over 30 years, husband is sober, 55 years of marraige & life is good. Fear & our first impulses are not always the ingredients for good choices.
The best advice I've ever been given was to stay home with my children and be a full time mommy and wife that God would provide for our needs. I have a 5 year old and a 1 year old and have been staying home for just over a year since the birth of my baby girl. One of the best decisions I've ever made. God continues to provide so that I can continue to do His will.
ReplyDeleteMy Daddy always told me never to criticize unless I could do it gently and with a recommendation on how to improve the situation. I've gotten the gripe bug a time or two and then that advice pops into my head and I hush it up.
ReplyDeleteA woman was said "remember that you are the only one that can be there for your husband to fill your role." Embracing my role as his helpmeet has been a blessing in my life.
ReplyDeleteOne more: When my husband and I got married my dad told us to always pray together, he said a family that prays together stays together.
Thanks for offering this giveaway! The best advice I have received is to "not sweat the small stuff". It's really not worth arguing about which way to squeeze the toothpaste LOL
ReplyDeleteMy Momma always told two things that I tell my kids 1)"pretty is as pretty does" this has nothing to do with your outside, if you do not remember to behave, say, and think pretty things you will the sour of life. 2)"If you would be ashamed to do it in front of me (Momma) imagine how you would feel if Jesus walked in and he knows before I (Momma) do!" and believe me I lived in a small town and at 16 I begged an Officer for my speeding ticket in hopes my Momma wouldn't be called. I was one mile from home, she was on the porch when I pulled into home. That officer didn't give me a ticket he knew my Momma would do better.
ReplyDeleteThe best advice given to me was and is pretty much the hardest thing for me to actually DO. It was: "Follow him as long as he is following HIM." So hard for me, because I don't follow well. I like to be in control. BUT, I need to make sure that GOD and Ben are the leaders in my life.
ReplyDeleteI was told that I didn't always have to be right...sometimes even if I know I am...just to make things smoother and happier, I will concede and life moves on. This works in all relationships. I would love to receive this book and I could also pass it on to my sister-in-law
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My husband often reminds me to not worry about things I can't change. I'm learning to turn those things over to God!
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